Hello my old friend!

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by Fingal Libraries on June 6, 2017.

At the beginning of May, Claire Fay challenged herself to give up Social Media for the month (click here to read about her challenge).  Here is Claire’s follow up blog letting us know how it went: I am honestly so surprised that I’m writing this blog. There were serious doubts in my head at the beginning […]

At the beginning of May, Claire Fay challenged herself to give up Social Media for the month (click here to read about her challenge).  Here is Claire’s follow up blog letting us know how it went:

I am honestly so surprised that I’m writing this blog. There were serious doubts in my head at the beginning of my ability to last the whole month without social media. But I’ve done it, I’ve gotten passed my addiction and not one withdrawal symptom in sight. I’m so happy I’ve done it, not once throughout the month have I regretted my decision. I definitely didn’t feel like I’m missing a limb without the apps at hand.

The month has flown by and I can easily say I have enjoyed every moment of it. Without the ability to focus on other’s lives I have been more immersed in my own. Whenever I was out of the house I was focused on what was happening around me and taking it all in. I wasn’t trying to get a nice picture of the view or a “selfie” with my husband for Instagram. It was the easiest way to be more mindful of my surroundings and the people I’m with.

I used to be very guilty of comparing my life to other people’s online life; why wasn’t I having as much fun as they seemed to be having or doing as much activities on the weekend. But that’s it; they seemed to be having fun. There is no way to verify it; that picture they have posted of them having fun could easily all be a big lie, anyone can make their lives look exciting and interesting if they have enough imagination and photography skills.

Now I don’t want to make this sound like it was a breeze for me. There were a handful of times when I was bored and didn’t feel like reading that it would have been great to have the apps there to scroll through for a few minutes. But I survived; daydreaming became a great pastime during these moments. I will say I did miss seeing the important life moments my friends shared online. I felt a bit behind when there was a get together and I was playing catch up with their lives. It was a bit like stepping back in time, we had loads of stories about our lives to share. Before this wouldn’t have happened, it would have been “oh I seen you tagged in a picture” or “You checked into…. But now it was “what have you been doing?” At least there was never a lull in the conversation.

Now to the real reason I have done this challenge; have I read more?

Yes and no. Yes I have read a lot more in my free time and have already finished four of the books from the notorious pile. But no I am not reading as much as I thought I would. I thought all the time I had spent on my phone would be spent reading but no. There were times when I just wasn’t in the mood for reading, in these moments I found myself doing other things I enjoy, like going for a walk or baking something nice. I have enjoyed getting through so many books, I feel like I’ve accomplished a lot.

As for the future, I will most likely reinstall the Snapchat and Instagram and give myself a week with them. If I find myself falling back into old habits then it’s adios to them for good. Whereas Facebook I won’t be reinstalling, I won’t delete my account as it’s nice to use it to keep up to date with friends and family abroad. The reason for not having it as an app on my phone is simple, it is far too easy to scroll away for an hour and not see the time go by. I do plan on doing a cull of my friends so I will only see stories that actually interest me.

All in all I have really enjoyed the last month. I’d definitely recommend everyone to at least give it a try. It’s very freeing being away from it all. I’m looking forward to the future, where social media won’t dominate my everyday life. I have learned a valuable lesson this month, life is for living and scrolling through social media apps certainly isn’t living.

By Claire Fay, Garristown Library